What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You?
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Have you experienced feeling solid and fearless in everything you do, including relationships?
Would you like to have real self-confidence? I'm talking about the kind of confidence that is rooted so deep it is literally unshakable. I'm talking about the kind of confidence you see in a mother when she needs to protect her infant. There's no self-doubt or bashfulness. Her actions flow from a place of certainty. Emotions may be present, but they do not run the show. Her mind remains resolutely focused on the goal.
What if you could have that kind of confidence when you approach the dating scene? Not the fierce part, but the confident, secure part. Honestly, that is what you REALLY want by saying you want to know what to do when your heart is broken That kind of confidence comes from knowing with certainty what you want. That kind of certainty comes from having a solid plan and no hesitation to take action when you see the openings you know to look for.
Wouldn't it feel great? Wouldn't you love to have an unshakable sense of purpose, identity and direction when it comes to meeting and interacting with men? I'd like you to have that confidence and I have a few tips to move you in that direction.
Always start with you.
If you are absolutely sure of what you want, you won't feel nervous about making relationship decisions. The more certain you become about what you want in a relationship and a man, the more confidence you will feel about setting boundaries, asking for what you want, or pursuing someone who might or might not reciprocate your interest.
Embrace "Failure"
Letting go of fear becomes easier when you accept "failure" as a valuable strategy. Dorothea Brande has been quoted for her famous statement on the best method to achieve success, "Act as though it is impossible to fail." Combine this with the wisdom of T.J. Watson, the president of IBM. "Would you like the formula for success?" Watson asks. "Double your rate of failure."
How can you succeed by failing more often? Many successful people swear by this method. If you are always cautious and terrified of mistakes, you don't try much and you don't learn much. People who are willing to fail embrace it and lose their fear of taking action in the process.
When it comes to dating...you will fail some of the time. The only way to be highly confident when dating is to accept failure as a part of the dating process. Don't think of setbacks and letdowns as something terrible that needs to be controlled at all costs. Instead, embrace failure as something natural that is "okay." Embracing this simple shift in your belief system can dramatically increase your confidence - and you need that now more than ever!
In relationships, you should negotiate for what you want. Do so in a way that gives full respect to the other person's right to walk away from a relationship rather than agree to your terms. When you know what you want in a relationship, you can talk about it openly.
When you have a best alternative to negotiated agreement about certain issues (like intimacy, moving in, commitment, or spending time together), you don't have to agonize about, "What if he gets mad and leaves me." Your confidence is high when you already worked out in your mind that you would be better off looking for someone more compatible if he doesn't agree on certain key issues that matter a lot to you.
In relationships, you should negotiate for what you want. Do so in a way that gives full respect to the other person's right to walk away from a relationship rather than agree to your terms. When you know what you want in a relationship, you can talk about it openly. When you have a BATNA about certain issues (like intimacy, moving in, commitment, or spending time together), you don't have to agonize about, "What if he gets mad and leaves me." Your confidence is high when you already worked out in your mind that you would be better off looking for someone more compatible if he doesn't agree on certain key issues that matter a lot to you.
Rely more on Attraction than Chasing
men are mysterious, even to themselves. They often don't understand their own emotions and desires. This makes it rather difficult to know how to maximally attract them while sidestepping the landmines that can obliterate a relationship just when it was getting good.
If you'll allow me to be so bold, I would like to invite you to try something interesting. As a dating coach and a man with a mission to understand men's reactions to women, I have discovered something very, very valuable. It's an organizing principle that seems to change the dating game for those who learn about it. I call it the Respect Principle, and if you'd like to learn more about it, I've shared a free presentation on the topic.
This FREE video reveals how to speak your man in a language that touches a primal inner part of his mind and become a constant source of excitement, interest, and pursuit for him.
You'll discover how to understand him on a deep emotional level, and how the subtle things you say affect him much more than you might think.
When you know how to do this, you'll be able to deeply connect with a man, and powerfully attract him.
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In the video you will learn secrets like:
- how to be irresistable
- why he's really afraid of commitment
- secret words and phrases that powerfully attract any men
- common fatal mistakes women make with men and how you can gain an unfair advantage
- and much more...
Also,learn qigong to not only be full of energy and radiate from inside so much that all men want to get into relationship with you but also be able to exactly create the kind of relationship you look for with the power of your mind!
Following these you won't ever have to deal with a broken heart or worry about how to recover from a broken heart, You will live in a fulfilling relationship happily ever after :)
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article by James Bauer, relationship expert